However, another factor has also been responsible for the increasing numbers of long distance relationships — the Internet. Online dating has made many more willing to give a long distance union a chance. Virtual relationships do indeed let people forge real connections even if they live on opposite ends of the country. One of the myths around long distance relationships is that they are always or more likely to fail than other kinds of relationships. Of course, not all long distance relationships will survive, but they are not any more likely to end in the demise than another kind of relationship.
Still, long distance couples have to make an effort when they want the relationship to last. For instance, the overwhelming majority of long distance relationships, more than two-thirds end when the couple does not plan for changes in the relationship.
A couple that has been together but finds itself apart at some point will need to make some adjustments in order to make the relationship work. This does not mean that any relationship that does not plan for the changes is doomed to failure, but it does suggest long distance couples have more work to do.
While some couples on average think a separation may only last about 14 months, many may end after less than five if the couple feels it will not work. This could be in part because couples in long distance relationships are more likely to worry about their partners cheating than those in close proximity relationships. However, there is no evidence to suggest that those in long distance relationships are more likely to cheat than others.
On average, most people in long distance relationships tend to be at least miles away from each other. They tend to visit each other less than twice a month and call each other at least once every three days.
Many couples even still write letters to each other, and on average this can be about three times a month. There are also other tactics those in long distance relationships need to take in order to make the relationship work. For instance, many people tend to cut themselves off from friends and others as they wait for their partners to return.
For example, does living apart from your partner make you closer? According to the majority of respondents, it does. Over half 55 percent of Americans that have been in a long-distance relationship said that their time apart actually made them feel closer to their partner in the long run, while seven out of ten 69 percent said that they actually talked to their partner more during their time apart.
Another 81 percent said that being in a long-distance relationship made real-life visits a lot more intimate than usual, due to the specialty of the occasion. But one glaring conclusion that the survey seemed to point to was that advancements in technology have not only made long-distance relationships possible — but even practical. And while nothing will beat being physically close to your partner, 88 percent said technology helped them feel closer to their partner throughout their long-distance relationship.
October 31, pm. Long-distance relationships have a 58 percent success rate, according to new research. SWNS In fact, half of those surveyed said they met their partner online, with 27 percent saying they never actually lived close to their partner to begin with. The pressure to live apart for work can be especially acute for younger couples who are still establishing careers, and the job market in academia—in which full-time jobs are both relatively rare and scattered about the country—is a telling case study.
They would find the best job for their husband or their male partner, and they would take a lecturer job or something else. Analyzing census data from , the economist Marta Murray-Close found that married people with a graduate degree were more likely to live apart from their spouse than those who had only an undergraduate degree. Murray-Close has also found that there is a gender dynamic to these patterns: When men in heterosexual married couples have an advanced degree, as opposed to just an undergraduate degree, the couple is more likely to move somewhere together.
For women, though, having an advanced degree makes it more likely that the couple will live separately. You definitely, in distance, develop two separate lives that you hope can come together at some point.
She asked not to have her last name published, because of the sensitive nature of her work. G oing long distance is a convenient option for a certain kind of modern couple, but how well does it really work, romantically speaking, to live in different places? Laura Stafford, the Bowling Green researcher, studied long-distance relationships involving one or more college students in the s.
Stafford found that long-distance partners were more likely to idealize each other: They receive less information about their significant other, and so their imagination fills in the rest, often in a positive way. Relatedly, they also tended to fight less. These couples were more likely to avoid conflict and withhold their honest opinions.
Indeed, Stafford has found that long-distance couples report being more in love than those in the same place. But the same things that help hold a long-distance relationship together make it harder to maintain once the geographic gap closes.
Many long-distance couples today are able to stay in constant touch wherever they are, and the communication technologies available to them allow them to share even the most mundane details—the sorts of things there was less room for in letters, long-distance phone calls, and previous incarnations of the internet.
Those mundane details can create closeness, while also letting people see a fuller, less idealized version of their partner. Crucially, this technological shift also gives couples more opportunities to talk about big stuff as well. But there are some things that communication technologies are unable to overcome.
Stafford notes that an important part of getting to know a partner is seeing how that person treats other people, and no amount of one-on-one videochatting would help in this regard. Many important determinants of long-distance-relationship satisfaction are often things that couples have little power over. Research has suggested that couples tend to be less stressed and more content if they know when the non-proximal portion of their relationship will end , and if the long-distance period is a year or less.
And being coupled but apart can fundamentally change how people experience their daily lives, forcing them to negotiate an in-between state of being not quite alone and not quite together. Or if I was single, I would be going out more. The consequences of geographic separation can be felt even when a couple is temporarily in the same place.
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